I realize that as a 29 year old, it’s too be expected that a vast number of my friends and relatives will be parents, but that doesn’t mean that its all I ever want to see and hear about. Some days I hate getting on FB because it’s just a steady stream of ugly kid pictures marking the walls of old friends who have given over too much of themselves.
As someone who’s never had a child, I realize that I’m in no way qualified to speak on this. I’m aware that children change everything, I’m aware they change you and your priorities. This is a very large part of the reason why I haven’t had them yet – I’m too selfish.
But as someone who will gladly admit that she is selfish, and immature, and sometimes opposed to reality in general, I can’t help but be saddened when a person I used to know, someone I used to genuinely like for themselves, has completely sacrificed their entire identity over to their children. Why spend decades trying so hard to be the best person you can be; the smartest, the most successful, the happiest, only to throw it all out the window the second you get pregnant or give birth?
Why do you have to change a profile picture of yourself to your child? Why are all of your posts and pictures about your children?
Where did you go?
Is that what happens when you have children? Do you just, disappear?
Now, don’t get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of and loving your children, let me stress that. But it just makes me sad when people sacrifice their personalities, ideals and goals to the alter of Mommyhood.
I could be wrong, I probably am. I’m sure one day I’ll be a parent and look back at how stupid and naive I was. Until then, I’ll just miss all the people I used to know, and wonder when exactly I became Facebook friends with all these ugly kids.